Did you know that happiness doesn’t come from other people?
Sounds silly, but check…
If I studied your behavior for 72 hours, what would the evidence show?
Most of us can logically say that happiness is something we need to cultivate within ourselves, but then we go out looking for it everywhere else.
And then we’re surprised when we can’t just be happy.
Well, you do the math…
Most of us don’t allow ourselves to be heartbroken.
We fix it.
We numb out to it.
We move on to the next.
And we go back to avoiding heartbreak at all costs.
What if you could actually be with the heartbreak?
What if it wasn’t something you needed to avoid?
What if you allowed it to exist?
You might find out that it doesn’t crush you. You might find out that the resistance to it was always the real cause of pain anyway. You might find solace in a moment where you don’t need to do anything but be heartbroken.
The biggest gift in losing my Mom was finding out that not only am I allowed to be heartbroken, it’s actually a necessary step in life. Every time I think I’ve experienced it all (all the grief, that is) there’s some more left over to feel. And I’m less and less surprised by it and more and more grateful that I have some facility with feeling it all.
It took something as big as my Mom dying for me to allow myself permission to be heartbroken.
Permission was always there, though.
And allowing your feelings to exist rather than logical-izing, stuffing, numbing or otherwise denying their existence is a forward moving choice, not the opposite.
Crying over spilled milk - pointless, right?
But what if you cry for 30 seconds and THEN move on?
Mourn the milk, move on. But don’t cheat yourself out of the process. You deserve to have it.
And then when something big happens, when the flood comes, you’ll know what to do.
I don’t know where, when or why you got convinced that you’re not awesome, but whatever caused that to happen was bullshit.
Because the only non-awesome thing about you is that you don’t think you’re awesome.
Buying some hardware today
Photo of a photo… from the shoot yesterday. Eric took some cool shots at the end just for fun.
Regram from @yeagabombz - photoshoot with @ericmichaelpearson !!!
Just gotta drag him in by the ear… We’re all here!!!! #cheers #ears #igloos
Almost showtime! #igloos LIT Lounge in the lower east side tonight at 9!!! Bring your friends and babies!